How To Make Your Wedding
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The Day of Your Dreams
What To Avoid When Planning Your Wedding...
- Resource Denial: Do you have a friend who is musically talented, someone who is good at designing or scrapping? Allow these people to help on items that will NOT make or break your day. Example, favors, invites, guest books, flower baskets, ring pillow, programs, seating cards, etc.
- Unclear Expectations: It's time to be honest and learn how to communicate the aspects that are most important to you. Take time to talk with your fiance and find out what is most important to each other. Then, communicate what is non-negotiable to family, vendors and friends and allow their input in other areas. Also, make sure to have clear expectations with finances and stick to your budget!
- Scrimping: There are several areas you can save money when planning your wedding by using your resources, but there are a few key areas where NOT TO SCRIMP. There are a few key vendors that will make or break your day: Photographer, DJ and Wedding Coordinator. These vendors have an integral part in making your day exceptional and taking away your stress. You can never recapture the photos on your day (I also strongly suggest having a videographer to capture the live moments), your DJ is the personality of your reception and without a professional it can be a disaster. Finally, a Wedding Coordinator will take all of your details, all of the days stress, orchestrate all of your vendors and family, fix anything that goes array and allows you the blessing of enjoying your once in a lifetime wedding day!
- Inflexibility: After you have figured out what's most important to you, be open to others ideas and allow your loved ones the option to assist you in planning. You cannot please everyone, but being willing to listen can often save the peace.
- But They Said...: Vendors are human and can make promises they forget about after a year of planning. Brides have been left negotiating days before their wedding to receive the services they anticipated but never confirmed. Rule of thumb - get everything in writing, email is a great way to accomplish this. After every meeting create a re-cap email and have them confirm what you heard them promise.
- WEDDING PARTY UNMET EXPECTATIONS: Every Bride has an expectation of what her best friends will plan for her special celebrations. Be clear on your expectations so there are no hurt feelings. (See Bridal Party Duties - coming soon).
- LAST MINUTE PLANNING: Don't be the bride who is so stressed the week before her wedding she has not time for herself or family and friends who have arrived for the wedding celebration. Think of items you can do ahead of time. Example: As guests respond start the seating list so you can print the cards or sign a couple weeks prior to the wedding, have an assembly party for favors and other decorating extras. Stay on schedule! Make to do lists. Ask for help!
- FAMILY & FRIENDS BECOME VENDORS: “It’s better to make a friend out of a vendor, than to make a wedding vendor out of a friend.” If expectations are unmet it can put a severe strain on any relationship. Your family (especially mom) deserves to enjoy your wedding too! There are thousands of stories of relationships being stretched to their limit due to well intentioned friends and relatives causing wedding catastrophes.
- FIANCE WHO?: Don’t let the stress of planning a wedding start arguments with your fiance. Take time for each other, focus on what the wedding is really about, starting your lives together. Have date nights where you don’t mention the wedding and just focus on each other! Taking dance lessons together before your wedding is a great date night idea.
- ULTIMATE CONTROL: Once all the vendors and details are in place, you have to trust your wedding team to pull off the wedding of your dreams. You know what’s suppose to happen every minute, but need to let go, or else you will become slave to your timeline and will not enjoy the moments your dreams are made of with your husband, family & friends.
Imagine your wedding day as a Broadway production, everything has to come together perfectly in order to produce a show the audience will never forget. Take your day from ordinary to extraordinary and allow Inspired Events lead the production team in creating the wedding of your dreams!
